Dear Abby: My daughter-in-law thinks I favor my grandkids that aren’t hers

DEAR ABBY: My daughter-in-law is very opinionated. At times, we get along. But, successful nan past, she has upset maine by accusing maine of not doing nan correct thing. She and my boy person 2 young children together and afloat custody of his boy from different mother. 

I complimented my grandson connected looking aft his small sister astatine her day statement and was told that this wasn’t nan case, arsenic she was being bullied by nan different girls while he stood by and watched. My grandson has been done a lot, and I sewage upset and said to my son, “Perhaps you request to see nan partners you choose!” Bear successful mind, this was each done via text. 

I person fixed thief pinch my grandchildren whenever it was requested. My girl in-law is now accusing maine of preferring my grandson complete her children, which is not nan case. We now person a fractured narration and can’t look to resoluteness it. Please, tin you help? — FRACTURED IN AUSTRALIA

Dear Abby doles retired proposal to a female who’s successful a fractured narration pinch her daughter-in-law. fizkes – stock.adobe.com

DEAR FRACTURED: Your grandchildren each stock nan aforesaid father, sloppy of who their mothers are. Your grandson could person handled nan bullying problem amended than he did, but he whitethorn not person known really to measurement in. (Or whitethorn not person felt he was beardown capable to intervene.) 

If you weren’t afloat alert of what was going on, you couldn’t person known nan compliment you gave nan boy was unwarranted. HOWEVER, for you to person told your boy what you did astir his woman was insulting and unkind. Begin apologizing profusely to her and your boy for losing your temper and saying thing truthful hurtful. If you do, it whitethorn statesman to heal nan breach.

DEAR ABBY: I person been joined for 33 years. My hubby is awesome and treats maine well. We’ve had nary problems. I precocious sewage successful interaction pinch my first fellow from 40 years ago. We person been texting connected a regular basis. We besides talk connected nan telephone and truthful connected and truthful forth. All nan feelings I had for him person resurfaced, which is not a bully thing, since I’m married. 

I person shed galore tears complete him (he is besides married) and can’t extremity reasoning astir him. Do I enactment pinch nan hubby I person been pinch for 33 years aliases return a chance pinch nan aged boyfriend? He says he still loves maine and has ne'er forgotten astir me. Would he divorcement his woman to beryllium pinch me? Probably. I’m torn betwixt 2 lovers and emotion for illustration a fool. Advice? — FACING A CHOICE IN THE EAST

DEAR FACING: Who reached retired to whom first? If it was you, why did you unfastened Pandora’s container looking for this man? And why person you continued these texts and telephone calls “and truthful connected and truthful forth”? I impulse you to research this earlier blowing up a matrimony of 33 years pinch a hubby who is awesome and treats you well. Would your first emotion wed you? Who knows? Would your hubby ever forgive you? Maybe not. Please tally this by a licensed therapist who tin thief you straighten retired nan strudel successful your noodle.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.