Dear Abby: My elderly sister refuses to get a job — now she is expecting me to pay her rent

DEAR ABBY: At 63, I americium nan youngest sister of 4 siblings. We grew up successful nan turmoil of Dad’s alcoholism and hoarding, arsenic good arsenic beingness and affectional maltreatment from some our parents. 

One of my sisters, “June,” was sexually assaulted by my brother. She’s 71 now and hasn’t worked since she was successful her early 30s. She supports herself connected Social Security and a pension from her ex-husband.

Her ex-husband precocious passed away, and nan pension stopped. She now expects my sister and maine to salary her rent because she’s “too aged to beryllium moving anymore.” 

Abby, June is perfectly tin of getting a part-time job. She refuses to use for thing contempt my telling her I will salary her rent for only 2 much months. My different sister, “Lisa,” is guilting maine by saying “we don’t want to spot her connected nan street.” 

I’m astir to discontinue aft moving 48 years. I worked 2 jobs until I was 52. I’m highly angry astir nan situation.

Although I tin spend it, I don’t consciousness it should beryllium my work because June won’t make immoderate effort to thief herself. Advice? — SIBLING DRAMA IN NEW YORK

DEAR SIBLING DRAMA: Schedule a family chat for yourself and your 2 sisters.

At that time, show them you are consenting to thief June and, IF she gets a part-time job, you would beryllium consenting to salary part of her rent IF Lisa will divided nan costs pinch you.

Do this only if some your sisters are consenting to make it a associated effort. 

DEAR ABBY: My hubby and I ever big each holiday. During each vacation earlier we eat, we opportunity a Catholic mealtime dream because we are religious.

However, recently, my husband’s nieces and nephews, who are successful their early 20s, stopped participating successful nan prayer. I americium OK pinch that, but they talk and mock our dream while we are praying. 

How tin we grip this? Our children noticed really inappropriate they were. I understand if they don’t want to participate, but shouldn’t they beryllium softly and respect us?

I americium against them coming into our home, mocking our belief and past putting retired their manus for a gift. Thanks for immoderate words of wisdom. — FAITHFUL HOSTESS IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR HOSTESS: Wow. Your husband’s nieces’ and nephews’ behaviour is beyond rude. If they don’t wish to subordinate you successful nan pre-meal prayer, they absolutely should beryllium respectful and beryllium softly until you are finished.

When it happens again, nan first words retired of your husband’s rima aft “Amen” should beryllium to tell them that what they’re doing is rude and not appreciated.

However, if he can’t bring himself to do that, nan shot will beryllium successful your court. 

DEAR READERS: At sundown, nan first nighttime of Passover begins. This awesome Jewish vacation celebrates nan astir momentous arena successful Jewish history — nan liberation of nan Jewish group from slavery successful Egypt. Happy Passover to my readers who observe this important holiday. — LOVE, ABBY

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